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Have you strengthened your family?

Hello everyone! I have really enjoyed the experience of writing about the topic of the family and I have learned a lot. I hope that I have been able to shed some light on the importance of preparing for and maintaining a good family structure and how to make the most out of the family you have. I have been so grateful for the things that I have learned and I have had a few chances to implement some of them into my relationships. I am getting married next week and so all of these things that I have learned are so important for me as I am preparing to start a family of my own. There is so much that I didn’t know going into my relationship with my fiance, but as I have learned little by little and tried to apply what I can, I have seen a huge difference! I hope you all have had similar experiences. Today, I’d like to go over a couple of the topics that I’ve written about that I’ve seen have made a big impact in my life and share an experience or two. First, the most important thing I’ve l
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What is the best parenting style?

Something I’ve thought a lot about lately is how to raise a successful family. In today's world it seems so common to see failed marriages and misfit kids. It’s a rarity to see a complete household anymore. It doesn’t take much reasoning to figure out that there aren’t any positive effects to a family splitting up so I wanted to find out what makes for a successful, strong family relationship, especially when it comes to raising kids. Children are impacted so much when things go wrong in the family so protecting your children means keeping the family together whenever possible. The unity in a family is strongly affected by the parenting styles used. There are many different styles people have tried and I’d like to go over a few and talk about their effects. A parenting style that is getting more common is what's called permissive parenting(freedom without limits). Permissive parents are the kind that give their children as much freedom as possible because they don’t want to cau
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Addressing the Challenges of Finance in Marriage

Finances can be a very stressful thing to deal with in every aspect of life. Financial concerns can cause relationships to divide and can cause real harm to people. Financial mistakes can be detrimental to a family and their success. There are so many challenges that come along with finance and I think too few are prepared to face these challenges. I would like to talk a little bit about that today with the hope that I can help inspire you to prepare to address these concerns about finances that seem to be inevitable in the world today. Something shocking that I learned is that psychologists routinely state that about 70% of divorces result from financial concerns; attorneys have stated that it is about 80%. Those numbers are insane to me! If finances are such a huge concern with the success of a marriage, why are we not learning more about it? I think this is so big that schools should be preparing kids to handle these concerns very early in life. I wish I had known about this earlier
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Communication

Today I’d like to talk about a topic that, as I’ve learned more about it, I realize is a huge factor in determining the quality of a relationship. That factor is communication. I’m sure you’ve all heard about and seen examples of poor communication in the relationships around you and you’ve probably experienced it in your own relationships as well. Poor communication is extremely common and extremely damaging. As I studied what makes for good communication I realized that it's another example of a “supernatural” relationship. This is a topic I covered back in September, but it basically means a relationship where you put effort in that is far beyond your natural tendencies. The sad truth is our natural tendencies as humans are kinda the worst and they generally don’t benefit us or anyone around us.  This is a concept that I learned early in my life because of my religious beliefs. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and in my church, we believe in scrip
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Family Crisis

I’ve been doing some research into the causes and results of crises within a family. This topic is really interesting to me because it seems to be a really big struggle for a lot of people. Whether struggles experienced as a child or struggles experienced in the family you’ve raised, they all seem to have a pretty big effect on the overall happiness of the family unit and can ultimately tear a family apart or strengthen a family. I’d like to cover the different aspects of family crises to hopefully help all of you prepare to handle these challenges within your own family. To do so, I want to cover, first, the different types of crises or stressor events that can occur in life, and then I’d like to talk about how we can address those stressors in a healthy and constructive way to strengthen our families. To help understand and analyze the different stressors and the different responses that can be associated with them, I’d like to present what is called the ABCX family crisis model. Thi
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How important is sex in a marriage?

I came across an article about sexual intimacy and how it can be both healthy and unhealthy. This is a topic I hadn't thought much about up until this point but this article, by Laura M. Brotherson, really opened my eyes to this all so important aspect of marriage. Sex is something that we don't talk about too much in our society, or at least that has been my perception of it. I was really in the dark about sex growing up. I didn't even learn about the birds and the bees from my parents, but rather from a kid in my 5th grade class years ago. I never had a chance to learn, in a healthy manner, what sex is and why it's important. I hope that I can help shed some light on the subject for those of you in a similar situation. First off, why is sex important? Sex is something that we, as humans, were created for. God created men and women for each other and sex was implemented as a was for us to have children and bring others to this earth, and also to increase intimacy betwe
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What makes a strong marriage?

I’ve recently come across some new information about marriage. The things that I noted were what causes divorce, generally, and what makes up a strong marriage that lasts. Obviously we all want a marriage that lasts and so I hope to be able to shed some light on how that's possible. First I’d like to talk about the reasons for divorce. You can attribute divorce to a decrease in marital satisfaction throughout the course of a marriage, but what causes this drop in marital satisfaction in divorced couples? Well, research shows that having children is a major factor in decreasing marital satisfaction. This fact threw me off when I first saw the data because I personally can’t wait to start a family and have kids and I always thought that would be the happiest time in my life and that it would cause me to love my wife even more. After looking into the reasons for dissatisfaction, I realized it makes a lot of sense. In many marriages, when the first kid comes around, the parents tend to
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