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Have you strengthened your family?

Hello everyone! I have really enjoyed the experience of writing about the topic of the family and I have learned a lot. I hope that I have been able to shed some light on the importance of preparing for and maintaining a good family structure and how to make the most out of the family you have. I have been so grateful for the things that I have learned and I have had a few chances to implement some of them into my relationships. I am getting married next week and so all of these things that I have learned are so important for me as I am preparing to start a family of my own. There is so much that I didn’t know going into my relationship with my fiance, but as I have learned little by little and tried to apply what I can, I have seen a huge difference! I hope you all have had similar experiences. Today, I’d like to go over a couple of the topics that I’ve written about that I’ve seen have made a big impact in my life and share an experience or two.


First, the most important thing I’ve learned is the need to break away from the norms of relationships and make your relationship “Supernatural.” This is something that you don’t see very often, but when you do, you can see the difference. You can see the selflessness of the people involved and how much they care about the commitments they have made to each other. I have tried to put supernatural effort into my relationship by communicating better, putting  my pride away when we have disagreements, and giving of myself even when I’m struggling. I have seen the effort I;ve put in reflected by my fiance and it has made our relationship so great! This is a concept that can be applied to any piece of marriage or relationship advice to increase its effectiveness significantly.


Another amazing thing I’ve implemented has to do with better communication, especially for overcoming disagreements or arguments. This is the “Disarming technique.” The disarming technique is a way of responding to a person's complaint or disagreement in order to de-escalate their emotions and be able to have a civilized discussion that, more often than not, ends in a good way. This is done by finding any amount of truth in what the other person says and relaying it back to them in a sympathetic and understanding way. Then you can follow up the disarming technique by asking questions about the person's feelings, relaying their thoughts and feelings back to them to show that you care, telling them how you feel, and showing lots of affection. In my personal experience, this method is tested and proven! It works flawlessly and helps me get past my pride and look for the truth in any situation. It has helped my fiance and I work through our differences or disagreements in a much better way than before.


Finally, I’d like to talk about active parenting. The thought of being a parent scared me a lot because I don’t want to mess up and ruin my kids' lives. I’ve seen how the mistakes of my own parents affected me and I want to do everything I can to improve from how my parents did it. Learning about active parenting gave me a lot more confidence that I could do it. I learned about the balance that needs to be made between freedom and limits and how that can affect your child's growth and learning.


These are all things that I think need to be taught in school to prepare us for the life ahead and especially to help keep strong families as a central foundation to society. I hope I have been able to influence you all to look into the needs of your families and work to develop stronger relationships. This has been a great learning experience for me and I may not be writing on this blog again for a while, but I hope that what I’ve wrote will continue to help as many as need it.


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